How To Become Better


Many of us have heard the above words in one phrase or another.  But how many of us truly took the words to heart and tried to apply them?  I can truthfully say that throughout my military career I have.  And a lot of times the learning curve was very damn steep.  But I always did it for my professional life only. 

In the past couple of years I started working on it for my personal life.  I surrounded myself with people with Bachelors, Masters, MBAs, and PhDs. Who were educated but more importantly saw the world with open-minded views.  In the last couple years I sought out entrepreneurs, social media gurus, aspiring weightlifters, and other intellectuals from various disciplines. I tried to learn as much as possible from everyone.  I gave them as much of myself as they gave me of them.

One example was a young Officer who resigned his commission and was moving to Norway to obtain his Masters.  In working with him I learned that he came from an affluent family and could do nothing else for the rest of his life if he wanted. I realized in our short time together that he wanted to be surrounded by the best in his chosen field. He wanted to become better.

This past Sunday I took the challenge of writing for five days straight from someone I consider my writing Mentor.  What I didn’t know when I joined that group was I was doing what that young Officer did by studying in Norway.  I was jumping  into the deep end to become better.  This morning I posted my blog post and waited for others to follow suit.  I quickly realized that there were some serious top-notch writers in this group as they started to post. One by one I felt myself getting overwhelmed by the stories and intoxicated by the words flowing off the screen.  Is that even possible?

I went back and looked at my page and realized that I needed to take my own advice.  I needed to conquer my own fear of being a better writer.  So I went back and read everyone one of the posts in the group and wrote comments about how I felt.  I took notes on how they used metaphors, drew their conclusions and tied the stories all together in the end of each post. Smart choice in the end.

I know that this is the best thing for me right now.  To sink a little, but at the same time embrace the suck to become better. Subconsciously I surrounded myself with the right people.  People better at something entirely different from me. Who will challenge me without even knowing it.

A challenge to become a better writer.  More importantly a better man.


Note: The above picture is of Major Richard Winters (far left) with men of Easy Company, 506th Regiment, 101st Airborne Division.  This is towards the end of the World War II at The Eagle’s Nest, Hitler’s compound.

8 thoughts on “How To Become Better

  1. I took fives minutes out of my morning to write because I realized if I wanted to become better at writing and become mre influential like others I needed to grind harder. This is one of my favorite blogs of yours why? Because it reminds me of what I stand for and how very important it is to surround yourself with greatness to increase your knowledge of this world! I use to be so scared to be bold as venture out as do spontaneous things but having that encouragement of others truly helped to increase my value! Wow Tony you are just getting better and better in sharing your love for writing! We all got to start somewhere and what an incredible journey when you share it with others! Have a blessed day!

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  2. Antonio! Bravo, sir. I think you really went outside your comfort zone and you certainly knocked this one out the park. I love the graphic. I love your intro. And I was immediately reminded of one of my posts I did in the fall.

    Surrounding myself with happy people who make me happy… makes me even happier. And surrounding myself with passionate bloggers makes me more passionate about writing. I’ve truly enjoyed my evening of reading tonight. And now I shall go write up my own post for day 2.

    Glad our paths crossed, sir.

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    1. Thank you so much Meghan. I appreciate the compliments. I did feel a little vulnerable writing this one. But I feel like it is therapy for me.

      I only want to be around happy people. Or people trying to be better and more optimistic. Is that too much to ask? I think not. I am going to go and check out your blog post. Thanks for the share!

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    1. You know honestly I wasn’t taught that as a kid. I mean I got the normal, “Don’t hang around bad people or bad things will happen to you.” But never told why the good people always came out on top. It was because they surround themselves with positive people. I am doing good now, though because I learned when I joined the Army. 🙂 Thank you for always taking the time to read my blog. I am humbled and grateful.


  3. I tell my daughter all the time to surround herself with others that lift her up as well as her playing a part of uplifting others. She has a very kind heart and hang with others that were not bought up the same way. I explained to her that she needed a balance because if not you find yourself going down the wrong path when you just have one set of friends. Thanks for sharing!

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