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How Believing In Myself Landed Me A Dream Job

Believe in me

(photo courtesy of Motivation Block)

For many years, I didn’t believe in myself.  Sure, I talked the talk.  Said the right things that I thought people wanted to hear.  Made empty promises and left many things undone.  Why?

I simply did not believe in my life and what I stood for anymore.  It was a dark time and I knew that it had consumed a good amount of my life. And those around me probably had no idea how unhappy I was.  I didn’t want to harm myself mind you.  I just didn’t have the grit in me to change.  I became complacent and just existed like an empty vessel.

 I felt stuck in a career that was stifling my creativity.  And when I reached out to people who I thought were my friends, that didn’t’ help at all.  They told me I was just in a rut and I would get out of it.  They told me I had a great thing going and to hang in there.

When I expressed that I wanted to leave the military and do something else, that’s when a lot of people’s true colors began to show.  I heard things like, “What else do you know how to do?” and “You’re a soldier, this all you know.”  Now that was a big wake up call.

And it hurt big time.  People who I admired and held in high regard hurt me to my soul.  And in the past I would have agreed and stayed.  But this time I didn’t.  I told myself that my happiness was more important than their friendship and whether they believed in me or not.  I had to take a chance and the time was now.

Yes, I was scared out of my mind.  I had a wife and three daughters that depended on me.  They didn’t understand the change no matter how I tried to explain it to them.  But I told myself silently the same thing every day and every night: I believe in you.  I said it so much that I felt the words calm myself in the face of adversity.  And believing in myself is the reason why I am in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia now.

Believing in myself has helped me to become a Program Manager for a multi-million dollar aviation corporation that I now work for.  Believing in myself has me sitting in my villa in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia still pinching myself about this opportunity.

I am not saying any of this to brag.  I am only sharing my story to show you that it can happen.  I am not telling you to follow my route.  I am telling you that the dream that you have can be achieved.  You know the one that you are scared to tell anyone about.  Afraid that they will laugh at you or just won’t understand.  You can do it.

I believe in you.  I believe in your dreams.  I just need you to know start to believe in yourself.  Stop wasting your time doing things you don’t have a desire for.

What have you got to lose?

-alv

P.S. I know there is someone out there who can benefit from hearing this.  Please share it with at least one person who is struggling with this right now. Thank you.

34 thoughts on “How Believing In Myself Landed Me A Dream Job”

  1. Hey Antonio, great post! Belief in self is very much like loving. To love, I believe, you need to love yourself first, faults and all! To have others believe in you, then you need that belief in yourself. I hope that makes sense 🙂 Enjoy Saudi and your new career.

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  2. I’m so glad you listened to your inner promptings and not the naysayers. I’ve done some major growing/changing myself. In the process of leaving various opportunities, my loved ones expressed their concern — even saying I was “all over the place,” and “unbalanced.” I don’t have all the answers, but I have learned that when our soul’s speak, we ought to listen. Dissatisfaction is a sign of an unmet need. Thank you for this fabulous post! I’ll be back to hang out 🙂

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  3. I love this. You took a big leap of faith in yourself – something that a lot of people shy away from due to feeling secure in the mundane. I want to squish the people that said those hurtful things to you – and glad that you pushed them out of your life. No one needs that type of negativity. I am proud of you!

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    1. Thank you so much! It was so hard to hear that from people that you trusted and looked up to you. But in the end it was all for the better and it was necessary I believe. I would’ve still been there believing in the wrong things and the wrong people. I just let success be my weapon of choice. Thanks again!

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  4. Antonio! This so speaks to my situation right now…very frustrated with life and my career! I am 50 and am in a job going nowhere that stifles my creativity..I started a fashion blog to help me in the direction of a new career, but a year into it and still nothing. It’s so much work to blog with a job, as you know..ha! I am doing everything possible to market myself and nothing seems to break… Anyway your post was very encouraging, as I sit her on the verge of quitting my blog….reading this helps to push on when You don’t want to!

    Thank you

    Valerie

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    1. Valerie do not quit your blog! It is rough in the beginning I still don’t have the numbers that I wanted a year ago. But I learned that it’s not about the numbers it’s about the engagement. Write Great evergreen content. Evergreen is stuff that no matter if it’s tomorrow or year from now it’ll still resonate with people it’s timeless. That attracts people. And we have to remember that in the beginning we have to know it’s about the content and the people and not so much it being monetary. But you can do this if you need my help please reach out and I’ll do what I can. No gimmicks no sales, just genuine conversation on whatever platform you want to talk on.

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      1. thanks Antonio…yeah not sure where I am headed with the blog…it is about engagement and I do get some, but not a lot. I m just weary from it right now, may need a break , but then you lose traffic if you do that!

        Thanks again for the kind words!

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  5. I really want to thank you for this post, because this is just what I needed. I’ve read countless posts on following one’s dream and your post really touched me. I think I really need to start convincing myself to believe in myself before convincing others. Start inside out, right? Congratulations on your big move, and I hope everything else works out for you in the future! 🙂

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    1. Somin, you are so welcome! And this is the very reason I write. By sharing my story it can help someone else through their tough time. Don’t be too hard on yourself either. You are a great writer and you have a gift. Now transfer that throughout every aspect of your life and you will be unstoppable.

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          1. I see what you mean about staying on theme… I guess a couple of photos perhaps? Not like a travel blog since you’re so inspirational and I wouldn’t want it to change but maybe a few pics that could go with a post? I’m curious about what it looks like over there! Are you on Instagram perhaps?
            Anyway, keep up the great work!!!

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  6. I just started listening to my inner self. And I’m submerging myself into what I want to do…nowhere I saw myself being a few years ago. Luckily now I have friends who want to support and propel me forward… I stopped listening to the nay-sayers a while back. I don’t quite know where I’ll land quite yet because everything is still morphing for me day by day… but I know now I’m on the right path. So I totally get it. I was right there with ya.

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