How Negativity and Adversity Are Your Best Allies To Living A Better Life



adversity and negativity are really our allies

How do you view negativity situations and adversity? 

You know the world would be a pretty boring place if we all looked and acted the same.  It would also be equally boring if we were all handed things without putting any effort into obtaining thing.

In the real world you and I both know that nothing is easy.  Nothing is given to us for free either.  You have to claw, fight, scrape, kick, and push your way to the life you want. From birth, we are surrounded by people who play a significant role in helping you realize and fulfill your dreams.

But you learn quickly in your interactions with other kids that negativity is part of the human makeup.  That there will be many who don’t want you to succeed at an early age.  And you have to quickly learn who has your best interests in mind all the time.

If that’s no one, that’s ok too. Because there are people out there rooting for you. You just haven’t met them yet. And something that you won’t believe, but negativity really is your friend.  Now, I know you are sitting there wondering what the hell I am talking about.  But hear me out.

Negativity can be used as fuel.  Think about it.  People who talk about other people are actually helping you.  They are pointing out your so called flaws.  They are allowing you to prioritize how you go about addressing these supposed flaws.

But remember that negativity is really masked insecurity.  The other person is really insecure about themselves and try to project that on you.  I say use that negative energy for the good.  Use it as an ally in this instance to make yourself better. Here’s why.

They told you that you wouldn’t graduate school and have a better life. They told you didn’t have the experience to start your own business.  They told you that if you started a blog no one would read it.  They told you that no matter what you do, you will never amount to anything.

I don’t know about you, but that fires me up.  Because I know that adversity is right behind negativity.  They are best friends and come hand and hand.  And I know that in the end both of them will make me a changed man after I am finished.

Look at adversity as really what it is: an opportunity to grow. And see negativity really as positivity. A chance for you to work through some tough times and show others and yourself that you have the grit to get through it all

See don’t look at the experience with negativity and adversity as being a bad one.  The minute you do you have already lost.  Plain and simple.

Look at it as a positive.  They told you that you couldn’t do something and now you show them.  Embrace adversity and negativity and allow them to be the fuel on your journey to greatness.


What has happened recently that you thought was negative, but could be the opposite? 




17 thoughts on “How Negativity and Adversity Are Your Best Allies To Living A Better Life

  1. Great article!
    My husband very recently lost his job for the fourth time and 3 weeks before Christmas. I very easily could let this get me down and become depressed but I am using it as fuel to put my blog into full swing and to try and monetize it as much as possible.

    It wasn’t a necessity before but it definitely is now.


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    1. Kimberly I am sorry to hear that that happened to your husband. But I believe that both of you are resilient and will bounce back from this. You are looking at it as the necessary push to get you to monetize your blog. And that’s a good thing. Good luck and I will follow your journey. Let me know if I can help in anyway. 🙂

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  2. Thank you. I was in need of a pep talk today. Normally I like to look for silver lining but sometimes it is hard to see it right away, we have to wait for the time to pass to unfold the story first. In that patience is key.

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  3. You’re right. I actually had a negative thing happen yesterday and I blogged about it (scheduled for Monday – hope you check it out) and I decided to fill my Twitter feed in the upcoming days with words of encouragement to combat this piece of negativity in my life. I refuse to let it get me down and I know there are others who feel the same (that’s why I read your blog!) Turn those negatives in your life around – let’s use it to empower ourselves to do better. Great post and timely in my life!

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    1. Sue, thank you for the kind words. Negative is tough to combat but you have a good plan on how to deal with it: Reinforced positivity. Spread out over a couple days. Good for you. Yes, I can’t wait to read your post on Monday!


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