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When They Tell You You Can’t, Do It Anyway

They will tell you that you can't move mountains. They will say that you can't cross seas.

That you can't dig deep and realize your own seeds of greatness and plant them to become better.

They tell you all of this because they love living in their comfort zone.

And because you want to do something, they lash out and criticize you.

But that's just their insecurities talking.
Do you.

Find what makes you passionate and do you. And do it because they said you couldn't.

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Be Original. It Works. 


There are close to 7.5 billion people in the planet. But I swear it feels like close to double that. Why? Because a lot of people are too busy trying to be some one other than themselves. 

They are busy watching and trying to imitate celebrities. Why? Because of money? Their fame? Because they seem to have the perfect life? There is no such thing. 

How about this. Be yourself. Be your own celebrity. Be your own motivation, inspiration, and be driven in the pursuit of your own utopia of existence. 

Trying to be someone else will have you missing out on your own highlight reel of your life. 

Be Original. 

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Be Afraid And You Will Succeed In Life.

 

I do not believe in fear. Early in my former career, I learned that fear was indeed self-induced and was and it kept me from achieving many of my goals in life.  See fear stops you from achieving your highest potential. It creates self-doubt and worries in the best of people. But it’s preventable. It can be overcome.

See I would rather be afraid of something than fearful. Why? Because being afraid creates a sense of urgency in us. It makes our body start pumping adrenaline and ignites the “fight or flight” in others depending on their situation.  Being afraid tells the body that we absolutely have to pick an option. Go left or right, up or down, street or stay on the sidewalk, but we are moving!

And having this attitude makes us succumb to our own internal peer pressure and forces us to do something. And why can’t that something be what we wanted to accomplish anyway?

Being afraid has gotten me a hell of a lot further than being fearful. Through jumping out of perfectly good airplanes, war, retirement, and now living overseas in “The Kingdom”. Fear rules nothing. Be afraid and get farther in life. Who’s with me?

 

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Whatever You Do Don’t Quit. 


There have been some times in my military, hell life in general, that I had wanted to quit. Give up. Walk away. Ring that damn bell. But then I came to the realization that some things are worth the pain and sacrifice if I really wanted them.

We used to say to “take a knee and drink water” during long marches or operations in the Army. It may seem silly now but it was during a time that you may have lost your bearings or felt like having a pity party. The idea was to take a knee, wet your palette and collect your thoughts. To take a quick second and look deep inside yourself for that second wind and reason why. And when you found that reason you would give your team a boost of confidence, inspiration, and keep pushing to accomplish the goal.

So why can’t you use this same example in your life? I do. When times get you down. When we see our “friends” achieving more and we are stagnating, take a knee and drink water. Collect your thoughts, reenergize your base and get after it.
Because we aren’t tapping out or ringing any bells around here.
You can do it. I know you can.

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Live Your Life. 

Live your life. In your terms.
In high school I was never the popular kid. I just never felt the need to have to belong to a group of people or follow the norm. Sure, I had plenty of friends because I socialized with everyone. But I didn’t live and die by what they thought of me. 

I was also very fortunate to become conscious and self aware of who I was as a young 17 year old. So I didn’t subject myself to society’s view of a young Black Man. And I have constantly evolved in my 20s, 30s, and now 40s. 

But one thing is constant: I am not bothered by what others think of me. 
Live your life and be who you have always wanted to be. On your terms.

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I Dare You.

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It’s so much easier in life to be average. To not rock the boat and to toe the line.  It’s so much easier falling into a routine with everyone else.  Falling into the norm.  Doing exactly what your parents, not you, want you to be in life.

Yea, ok.  No.  I have always been someone who wanted and did the opposite of others.  I didn’t follow the crowd in school.  I never really had a ton of friends.  Just like-minded people on the fringes like me who always did their own thing.  Sure, there were times where I wanted to be popular.  But that quickly subsided when I figured that high school was very temporary and we actually had to be something productive in life afterward.

I knew early on that I was destined to be something bigger than just another kid graduating and joining the workforce.  I joined the military knowing I wanted to be the best Logistician and Soldier I could be.  Sometimes I fell short and others I excelled, having retired after 23 successful years. During that time I fell into depression and grew very pessimistic.  But one thing that kept me going was that phrase:  I Dare You To Be Great.  I often told myself this.  I dare you to do good on this promotion board.  I dare you to do your absolute best on this deployment day in and day out.  I dare you to give your best leading these soldiers.  Every single day that was my mission:  to be great just that one single day. Like I said, some days I was great and some days I fell short.  But I always dared myself and gave the best I could.

It’s something that all of us can do.  It’s not a gift given to the rich, privileged, or gifted.  Each one of us has the “greatness gene” dormant inside of us.  Each one of us has the willpower to be everything we imagined. We just need to follow these simple steps:

 

Believe in Yourself

Set Your Goals

Accept and Take Action

Acknowledge and Repeat

In the coming weeks, I will be elaborating more on these four principles in a new way titled the Becoming Better Project. My goal is to assist one hundred people in realizing their fullest potential. The plan will be to build a community of people from all walks of life who just want to become better.  And it’s free.  All I want is your time and commitment to want the best for you and others on the same path.

Will you commit?  Drop me a comment below or send me an email with Becoming Better in the subject line letting me know you want to be apart of this.

 

-alv

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How Optimism Is One Of The Keys To Success

gary vaynerchuk and optimism

(Gary Vaynerchuck on the DailyVee)

Life is tough, but I wouldn’t want it any other way. I have lived through some dark times and moments where I didn’t know I would survive. And I am not talking about on a deployment in Iraq or Afghanistan. I am talking about everyday life before and after the military. Up until a few years ago, I was a very pessimistic person. I felt like everyone was conspiring against me. You know what I am talking about. The victim mentality. Where instead of thinking of ways to see the silver lining to problems, I was retreating to the dark and “woe is me” comfort of thinking and dealing with things.

And it was comfortable and I was content. Sure, on the surface I complained about things, but deep down I felt safe in my misery. Safe in the way that I had to put no effort into complaining and being not trying to achieve anything. But I was wrong. I put in some hard work, but I was mostly mentally.  Believe it or not, it’s hard work being miserable. It’s also hard work being positive and being spent everyday achieving your dreams. I don’t know about you, but I would rather have the latter. Wouldn’t you?

I mean, think about it, both of them take a considerable amount of effort to do: complaining and doing. But by doing you are actually getting what you want. Do you want that new job? Don’t go into it think that someone has more experience than you and is going to get it. Do you want to finish that degree? Don’t go into thinking of the amount of classes that you have to take. Think about walking across that stage and using it later in life. But you can’t do any of that if you aren’t starting with the right attitude.

When I realized that I needed to first start with the right attitude, my outlook on life completely changed for the better. I took my own dreams into account and set about conquering them. By being optimistic myself, it automatically impacted my world around me. My family, friends, coworkers, and soldiers who worked for me were directly affected by my new disposition.
I used optimism to finish out two decades of service. I used optimism when I didn’t know when I didn’t know where I was going work next. I think my optimism helped to keep my options open and my mind clear of what I wanted out of life. It paid off in the end and I am way ahead of where I thought I would ever be.

Now in my new profession, I live by pushing optimism out in the forefront. I wake up with gratitude for a new day and for the rest of the 86,400 seconds I work hard to keeping it positive. Like, Gary Vaynerchuk says above, “If you lack optimism, it’s game over.”

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Why It’s Easier To Just Execute Instead of Making Excuses


Life is hard, I get it. It seems like everything is spiraling out of control at the same time. The world is changing all around us and it’s showing no signs of slowing down.
And you know what, that’s ok. We as humans have adapted and evolved for many millennia. Right now that’s not your concern. Your concern is your dreams, goals, and putting in the work.

That’s it. Put your head down and do the work. It sounds easy enough. But if it was why are so many not doing it?

Why would people rather complain than to work hard? Because it’s easy. It’s really easy to make excuses. The effort put forth to think of them is not that difficult.

But where we are wrong is that it’s not that hard to put in the work either. Sure, the actual physicality of it may be but that really depends on what you are trying to accomplish.

And if you love it, then it doesn’t even feel like work. But the only way you can find out is if you put in the time and effort. Like right now. Figure out the steps you need to take and get started.

Stop waiting for someone to help you. Stop waiting for someone to give you the necessary tools. Go and find them. We live in an age where so much information is at our fingertips. You really have no excuses.

Absolutely none. Don’t use your lack of education as a reason for not getting started. Don’t use the excuse that you don’t have money as to why you haven’t started your business.

I know a couple people who have started from scratch on the Internet. Most through just word of mouth. It can be done. There are eleven year olds and older with national products being sold in major stores.

There are no excuses. No one is literally stopping you. Put your head down and do the work.

I am.

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Vision 

  

You know exactly what you want out of life. You know who you want to be. You know who you are right now. You have a plan. Goals are laid out. So what is stopping you? 

 Vision

You need to see yourself as a success before it actually happens. Whatever your definition of success is, you need to see it. See it daily. Picture what it would look like to you. 

Keep that vision cemented in your head and work on the plan to get there. It may not always be clear. So break it up in 90 day chunks so you can see the progress better and more quickly. 

All the hard work in the world won’t get you there without the vision. 

It’s time to see it and achieve it. 

Let’s go. 

-alv