Grit (Part One of The 3G Series)

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What is grit? Merriam-Webster defines grit as a firmness of mind and spirit:  unyielding courage in the face of hardship or danger.  But I think it’s much more than that.

I believe grit is the trait in all of us that lies dormant in many.  Grit to me is when passion and perseverance meet and you endure everything that it takes to accomplish the goal.  When you know that sacrificing certain things in life to one day realize that it was all worth it in the end.

Grit has helped me through a lot of things before I knew the definition of the word. After my first four years in the military, I decided that I was going to get out.  I was living in Tacoma, Washington and I was thinking about becoming a Deputy Sheriff.  But there was something in me that wanted more out of this journey.

I didn’t know then that I wanted to help people become better.  I just knew that I wanted to make some type of difference.  A year later I became a leader in the Non-Commissioned Officer Corps (NCO) and my life completely changed.

In 1997, I made the decision to help as many people as possible while I still loved serving in the military.  That was the goal all those years ago.  Not to become the best NCO I could be at the expense of those I was in charge of.  To not step on their backs to make the rank as fast as possible.

But to simply help the maximum number of soldiers where I was living at the time. I didn’t care if they worked for me or not.  If they needed help, I offered.  Now everyone didn’t take my advice, but I quickly learned that freely giving knowledge to others does translate to wisdom on their part.  Some people will simply not act on the information you give them for years.  It happens.

I believe that after serving 22 1/2 years, I reached that goal that I set so long ago.  I knew that I needed to do something else (this blog) to help more people and myself at the same time.

So I used that determined trait and set my goal on this blog and the brand of Living The Dream.  I have the grit to accomplish this goal of helping the masses.  Do you?

Think about it.  We all have that one goal that we have been thinking about.  Finishing that degree?  Losing that pesky weight?

Do you have a goal that you set out to accomplish and have you started? Do you know what it will take to accomplish it?  Do you have grit?


The 3G Series: Grit, Grind, and Gratitude

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Coming tomorrow will be part one of three in a series I call The 3G Series.  I have lived most of my adulthood by following these three traits.  Even before I knew what each one was they have had a profound effect on me.  I honestly believe that if you live by these three you will have a fulfilling and rewarding life.  So over the next three Tuesdays tune into The 3G Series.



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Who would have guessed it?  Really.  Who would have thought that you would go back to school to finish that degree?  Who knew you were going to open up your own business?  Who knew I was going to retire from the military after so many years?  We both did.

We both knew that life was more than the comfort zones we incubated ourselves in.  We knew the constant pain of heartache and hopelessness.  When we felt like giving up and allowing our detractors to have the last word.  Saying they knew we would fail.

That was last year. That was the past.  We decided that we didn’t want to keep making the same mistakes and not learning the lesson.  We decided that we had to keep going and that nothing is achieved over night.

Today is Friday. One year later and we are not the same person at all.  You feel it and I do, too. We look back at last year this time and know we were on the right track.  But the job is not done.  Relish in your accomplishments for a few minutes.

Now let’s get back to work. We have a legacy to build.


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What Are You Chasing Anyway?


Everyone I know is chasing something in life. Notice I said something and not someone.  There is a clear and definable difference.  Now, I am not talking about your friends in your circle of trust.  Because I am a big advocate of having friends smarter and more accomplished than you. I believe that true friendship and healthy competition makes us all achieve more. Continue reading “What Are You Chasing Anyway?”

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Why Not?


Why not?  Why can’t you become what you want?  Is it based on your upbringing that you are destined to fail while others succeed because of their family name?   Continue reading “Why Not?”

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Failures and Successes


I have failed. So much that at one point in time it affected my attitude towards life.  I have doubted myself many times. I failed at the first blog last year.  I had no idea what I was doing. Failed to progress through the ranks because I made the mistake of comparing myself to others.   Continue reading “Failures and Successes”

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How To Become Better


Many of us have heard the above words in one phrase or another.  But how many of us truly took the words to heart and tried to apply them?  I can truthfully say that throughout my military career I have.  And a lot of times the learning curve was very damn steep.  But I always did it for my professional life only.  Continue reading “How To Become Better”

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The reason I write

I write a lot to just get out my inner thoughts.  A lot of times I am talking to myself more than anything.  Not always knowing that I am helping someone get back on track.  I am humbled to see words like below come across my Facebook timeline.

“Antonio Vereen, this should be enough motivation for you to keep going! You’ve truly inspired me to evaluate and take time to lift my esteem back to a “go getter” type personality. I look and write it everyday, so that it sticks. Keep up the blogs please, they do make a bigger impact than ending with yourself. Thanks SO much for sharing your beautiful mind and optimism on life. ~ your Brother in Arms”

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Thank you Matt.  Keep Living The Dream Brother.