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Don’t Waste Any Opportunties 

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When are you going to start working on your dreams?

I know you want to be the best version of you.  I know you want to make life easier for you and your loved ones.  You want to help those people in your community who are less fortunate.  You made the necessary plans and have them tucked away for when the time is right.

And when is that? When is the time ever right for anything?  The Wright Brothers didn’t wait until someone came along to perfect their plane.  They devised a rudimentary machine and set about trying to get it to fly.  They didn’t wait until someone showed them how to do it.  They just did it.  Yes, it didn’t work the first couple of times. But all it took was one time.  That one time changed the entire course of history for how we all travelled around the world.

When I knew that I wanted to leave the military, I didn’t wait.  I put in my retirement orders and began working on the foundation for my family’s new civilian life.  And as solid as I thought my plan was it still had holes in it. But you know I still too the leap of faith.

 Steve Harvey’s recent video below after a taping of Family Feud has gone viral.  In it he talks about jumping (doing it now) and not waiting.  Check it out.

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Great, huh?  See we all have a parachute (our dreams) and many of us hold onto it for years.  And like he said, some people never even open theirs.  In fact, many people go to their grave with them still strapped to their backs.  No, I am not trying to scare you, but you have to have a sense of urgency and jump. Jump into your destiny because there is no other perfect time to do so.

N.O.W. stands for No Opportunity Wasted.  We don’t have the time to sit around and let others realize your dreams and implement them.  We don’t have time for others to criticize us and tell us that it will never work.  Today right now at this very moment is the time.  There is no better opportunity.

Les Brown, the motivation speaker talks about you laying in your death bed and the end of your life.  Surround all around you are the Ghosts of Missed and Past Opportunities. They are standing above you and they are angry.  Angry that you didn’t take at least one of them and go for it.  They are angry at you that they now how to go to the grave with you.  Missed opportunities.

Now I don’t know what it is that you want to accomplish.  I don’t know your dreams.  And honestly, I don’t need to. Stop whatever you are doing and start on one of your goals.  No excuses.  Just stop and come back to this blog if you have to.  Bookmark if you want, but go and realize your dreams.  Take the first step closer to your legacy.  Remember, no opportunity wasted.

Live your Dreams.

-alv

What’s one goal that you would start today right now at this very moment?

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What Do You Deserve In Life?

What exactly in life do you think you deserve?  A big house?  A nice job?  A beautiful spouse on your arm?  What if I told you that you honestly don’t deserve any of it.  Not one bit.  Not if you don’t work for it.

Many of us, not all, have someone been raised with a sense of entitlement.  As if because we were born, the world owes you any and everything that you want and desire.  That because of the work that our parents or ancestors have done we someone is entitled to a pass over hard hips, turmoil, trials and tribulation.

I want to tell you that if you feel that way and you are reading this blog you are in the wrong place.  My blog is not for you.  Though I love having followers and talking with you all, I can’t deal with those who feel that particular.  I don’t do entitlement.

Well, let me take that back.  I don’t care for people who have a sense of entitlement and have done nothing to warrant it.  I do, however, feel that we are all entitled to achieve our dreams.  We are entitled to be always striving for greatness.

But do you deserve it?  I say yes and can say it with conviction.  I know you deserve to not struggle your whole life with money, weight, or self-esteem.  I know you deserve to come out on top as much as possible.

But you and only you can get you there.  Only you can get what you deserve.  You can have all the right mentors, friends, coaches, etc. But if you don’t put in the work, it will never work for you.

We don’t simply deserve something because we are living and breathing on this planet earth.  Every specimen on this planet has to work hard for what they deserve. Why would you be any different?  Really.

Time is of the essence.  We don’t have to debate what you think about the subject.   Stop telling me your hustling.  Stop being everywhere but on the journey to fulfilling your dreams. It’s time to do work.

Have at it.

 

-alv

 

 

 

 

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How Saying No Will Make Your Dreams Come True

How many times do you use the word no a day?

No.  Say it with me.  No.  Why am I asking you to repeat that word?  Because many of us really don’t know the power of the word no.

See, when you are a child you are taught to say no to many things.  Say no to drugs.  Say no to strangers.  Say no if you don’t want something. Say no if you don’t feel comfortable with something or someone.  We were taught to just say no.

Then we grow up and your parents begin to say no to you a lot, but you are supposed to say yes to things they want for you.  Say yes to taking all the classes they want you to.  Say yes to the clothes they want you to wear. Say yes to who they think you should date.  Say yes to the college and the major they want you to take.  Hell, you are basically saying yes to their broken dreams that they didn’t fulfill.

Then you get out in the workforce and are told that you don’t say no out here.  That you should never tell your Boss no for any reason.  You do what you have to do no matter what to get the job done.  You are told that no is a career killer. Basically, they would rather you sacrifice your soul than to tell them no.

Want to know how many times I told people no in my military career?  A lot. Maybe that’s why I am not in the military anymore!  Oh well. Honestly, I believe in the power of the word no.  I believe that the word frees you up from doing things that you otherwise would neve find yourself doing.

See, Steve Jobs believed that by saying No to a lot of things it helped you to be focused on a few.  Really focusing on what you want to do in life.  Not what your parents or friends want you to do.  Focusing on what matters.

See, I said no to a lot of bad ideas in my life. Even when I was looking for a job after I retired I said no to jobs I didn’t want to do.  I wasn’t being picky.  I just wanted something better.   Only by saying no to the norm is how you will get further in life.  And you will probably lose some friends.  Maybe even some love ones.  But if they truly believe and care for you hearing no won’t turn them away from you.

Hearing no will hopefully show them that you are strong in your convictions and know what you want in life.  That you want to be in charge of your life decisions. Because saying yes to everyone else and saying no to what you want will get you nowhere.

What’s important to you?  What makes you jump out of bed in the morning?  What fuels your every waking moment?  Those are the things that you should always say yes to.  Until those are accomplished, everything else should be told no.  Because if you really want them you will stay focus on only these things.

You want to be a better person and live a fulfilling life right?  You have to say no to things that will take away from that.  You have to say no to people who think they know what’s best for you.  Sure, listen to people’s advice.  But if you feel in your gut that you are being led the wrong way, say no.

The whole reason for your existence is to be the best person you can possibly in your lifetime. You should want to achieve everything that you wanted as a kid.

I am not saying that you will be another Steve Jobs.  Who wants to be?  I would imagine that he would want you to be better than him in whatever you decide to be.

But he would definitely want you to say the word no more.

-alv

 

What are you going to say no to today that you have been putting off?

 

 

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Learn To Understand 

We fear many things in the course of our life.  We mostly fear things we can’t comprehend.  Why you ask?  Because it is easier to fear than to understand.

It is easier for us to say we are afraid of things than to take the time to study them.  We rather live in self imposed fear than to take the time to figure out life’s mysteries.

Take the chance. Break the cycle. Study what you fear. Learn something new to become better. 

-alv

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Be Your Own Hero

It’s ok to have people who you admire.  You listen or read their story and find things that match your life. You feel like you identify with them and they start to take on a different persona and you begin to idolize them. But be very careful about that.

Don’t idolize them. Don’t put them on an unearned pedestal. Don’t make them the center of your life.  We can admire their courage and will, but never idolize another living human being who walked this earth.

Be your own hero of your movie. Write your script daily and show up in top form.  Act this life out as if its your big break. Let the world admire your craft and you at the same time.  Make the ending a happy one and make it an adventure.

Be the hero.  The world is waiting.

-alv

Vide courtesy of Joe Rogan and Onnit.

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Live Your Truth  

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Life is hard.  That’s not a new revelation. What is difficult is living our truth. But what is that you say?  For each person, it is different and has a thousand different explanations and reasons.  What it is not is living a life that you despise.  Going through the motions of existence not caring what happens next.

Living our truth is knowing what you want and learning to consciously live them out each day  Knowing that you will not compromise on your values that you hold sacred.  I am not talking about your parent’s values.  I am talking about things that are important to you and help you live a better life.

You love to write, but you think that it will never be read by anyone  That’s not the point.  For me, writing is therapeutic.  It helps me to work through my vices and problems.  In the end, it is a necessary staple in my life. Some days my words reach others and make an impact. Some days they touch no one besides me.  That’s all that matters because to me words in black in white means more.

Living your truth is experiencing life to the fullest.  Doing things that bring happiness to you and strengthen your values. So go and center yourself in your convictions.  Work on them every single day and enjoy every second of living your truth.

-alv

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Keep going 

 

(Photo courtesy of hplyrikz.com)

Who would have guessed it?  Really.  Who would have thought that you would go back to school to finish that degree?  Who knew you were going to open up your own business?  Who knew I was going to retire from the military after so many years?  We both did.

We both knew that life was more than the comfort zones we incubated ourselves in.  We knew the constant pain of heartache and hopelessness.  When we felt like giving up and allowing our detractors to have the last word.  Saying they knew we would fail.

That was last year. That was the past.  We decided that we didn’t want to keep making the same mistakes and not learning the lesson.  We decided that we had to keep going and that nothing is achieved over night.

Today is Friday. One year later and we are not the same person at all.  You feel it and I do, too. We look back at last year this time and know we were on the right track.  But the job is not done.  Relish in your accomplishments for a few minutes.

Now let’s get back to work. We have a legacy to build.

-alv