They will tell you that you can't move mountains. They will say that you can't cross seas.
That you can't dig deep and realize your own seeds of greatness and plant them to become better.
They tell you all of this because they love living in their comfort zone.
And because you want to do something, they lash out and criticize you.
But that's just their insecurities talking.
Find what makes you passionate and do you. And do it because they said you couldn't.
(Gary Vaynerchuck on the DailyVee)
Life is tough, but I wouldn’t want it any other way. I have lived through some dark times and moments where I didn’t know I would survive. And I am not talking about on a deployment in Iraq or Afghanistan. I am talking about everyday life before and after the military. Up until a few years ago, I was a very pessimistic person. I felt like everyone was conspiring against me. You know what I am talking about. The victim mentality. Where instead of thinking of ways to see the silver lining to problems, I was retreating to the dark and “woe is me” comfort of thinking and dealing with things.
And it was comfortable and I was content. Sure, on the surface I complained about things, but deep down I felt safe in my misery. Safe in the way that I had to put no effort into complaining and being not trying to achieve anything. But I was wrong. I put in some hard work, but I was mostly mentally. Believe it or not, it’s hard work being miserable. It’s also hard work being positive and being spent everyday achieving your dreams. I don’t know about you, but I would rather have the latter. Wouldn’t you?
I mean, think about it, both of them take a considerable amount of effort to do: complaining and doing. But by doing you are actually getting what you want. Do you want that new job? Don’t go into it think that someone has more experience than you and is going to get it. Do you want to finish that degree? Don’t go into thinking of the amount of classes that you have to take. Think about walking across that stage and using it later in life. But you can’t do any of that if you aren’t starting with the right attitude.
When I realized that I needed to first start with the right attitude, my outlook on life completely changed for the better. I took my own dreams into account and set about conquering them. By being optimistic myself, it automatically impacted my world around me. My family, friends, coworkers, and soldiers who worked for me were directly affected by my new disposition.
I used optimism to finish out two decades of service. I used optimism when I didn’t know when I didn’t know where I was going work next. I think my optimism helped to keep my options open and my mind clear of what I wanted out of life. It paid off in the end and I am way ahead of where I thought I would ever be.
Now in my new profession, I live by pushing optimism out in the forefront. I wake up with gratitude for a new day and for the rest of the 86,400 seconds I work hard to keeping it positive. Like, Gary Vaynerchuk says above, “If you lack optimism, it’s game over.”
(photo courtesy of Motivation Block)
For many years, I didn’t believe in myself. Sure, I talked the talk. Said the right things that I thought people wanted to hear. Made empty promises and left many things undone. Why?
I simply did not believe in my life and what I stood for anymore. It was a dark time and I knew that it had consumed a good amount of my life. And those around me probably had no idea how unhappy I was. I didn’t want to harm myself mind you. I just didn’t have the grit in me to change. I became complacent and just existed like an empty vessel.
I felt stuck in a career that was stifling my creativity. And when I reached out to people who I thought were my friends, that didn’t’ help at all. They told me I was just in a rut and I would get out of it. They told me I had a great thing going and to hang in there.
When I expressed that I wanted to leave the military and do something else, that’s when a lot of people’s true colors began to show. I heard things like, “What else do you know how to do?” and “You’re a soldier, this all you know.” Now that was a big wake up call.
And it hurt big time. People who I admired and held in high regard hurt me to my soul. And in the past I would have agreed and stayed. But this time I didn’t. I told myself that my happiness was more important than their friendship and whether they believed in me or not. I had to take a chance and the time was now.
Yes, I was scared out of my mind. I had a wife and three daughters that depended on me. They didn’t understand the change no matter how I tried to explain it to them. But I told myself silently the same thing every day and every night: I believe in you. I said it so much that I felt the words calm myself in the face of adversity. And believing in myself is the reason why I am in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia now.
Believing in myself has helped me to become a Program Manager for a multi-million dollar aviation corporation that I now work for. Believing in myself has me sitting in my villa in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia still pinching myself about this opportunity.
I am not saying any of this to brag. I am only sharing my story to show you that it can happen. I am not telling you to follow my route. I am telling you that the dream that you have can be achieved. You know the one that you are scared to tell anyone about. Afraid that they will laugh at you or just won’t understand. You can do it.
I believe in you. I believe in your dreams. I just need you to know start to believe in yourself. Stop wasting your time doing things you don’t have a desire for.
What have you got to lose?
P.S. I know there is someone out there who can benefit from hearing this. Please share it with at least one person who is struggling with this right now. Thank you.
I write a lot to just get out my inner thoughts. A lot of times I am talking to myself more than anything. Not always knowing that I am helping someone get back on track. I am humbled to see words like below come across my Facebook timeline.
“Antonio Vereen, this should be enough motivation for you to keep going! You’ve truly inspired me to evaluate and take time to lift my esteem back to a “go getter” type personality. I look and write it everyday, so that it sticks. Keep up the blogs please, they do make a bigger impact than ending with yourself. Thanks SO much for sharing your beautiful mind and optimism on life. ~ your Brother in Arms”
Thank you Matt. Keep Living The Dream Brother.
Good morning/afternoon/evening Dreamers. I think I filled my plate with too much. Let me run it down for you: Continue reading “Consistency is the key and I lost it!”