Photo courtesy of Gary Vaynerchuck
Photo courtesy of Gary Vaynerchuck
We make mistakes. The problem is many of us don’t learn from them.
We go on to repeat them over and over again. And continue the question why we are stick in this vicious circle.
Because we don’t want to grow. We like being complacent. Even in our misery. We like to be comfortable.
We hate failing so we play it safe. Forget safe. The road to success is riddled with failure. I personally like to fail because I know success is around the corner.
So fail and fail often.
(Gary Vaynerchuck on the DailyVee)
Life is tough, but I wouldn’t want it any other way. I have lived through some dark times and moments where I didn’t know I would survive. And I am not talking about on a deployment in Iraq or Afghanistan. I am talking about everyday life before and after the military. Up until a few years ago, I was a very pessimistic person. I felt like everyone was conspiring against me. You know what I am talking about. The victim mentality. Where instead of thinking of ways to see the silver lining to problems, I was retreating to the dark and “woe is me” comfort of thinking and dealing with things.
And it was comfortable and I was content. Sure, on the surface I complained about things, but deep down I felt safe in my misery. Safe in the way that I had to put no effort into complaining and being not trying to achieve anything. But I was wrong. I put in some hard work, but I was mostly mentally. Believe it or not, it’s hard work being miserable. It’s also hard work being positive and being spent everyday achieving your dreams. I don’t know about you, but I would rather have the latter. Wouldn’t you?
I mean, think about it, both of them take a considerable amount of effort to do: complaining and doing. But by doing you are actually getting what you want. Do you want that new job? Don’t go into it think that someone has more experience than you and is going to get it. Do you want to finish that degree? Don’t go into thinking of the amount of classes that you have to take. Think about walking across that stage and using it later in life. But you can’t do any of that if you aren’t starting with the right attitude.
When I realized that I needed to first start with the right attitude, my outlook on life completely changed for the better. I took my own dreams into account and set about conquering them. By being optimistic myself, it automatically impacted my world around me. My family, friends, coworkers, and soldiers who worked for me were directly affected by my new disposition.
I used optimism to finish out two decades of service. I used optimism when I didn’t know when I didn’t know where I was going work next. I think my optimism helped to keep my options open and my mind clear of what I wanted out of life. It paid off in the end and I am way ahead of where I thought I would ever be.
Now in my new profession, I live by pushing optimism out in the forefront. I wake up with gratitude for a new day and for the rest of the 86,400 seconds I work hard to keeping it positive. Like, Gary Vaynerchuk says above, “If you lack optimism, it’s game over.”
Life is hard, I get it. It seems like everything is spiraling out of control at the same time. The world is changing all around us and it’s showing no signs of slowing down.
And you know what, that’s ok. We as humans have adapted and evolved for many millennia. Right now that’s not your concern. Your concern is your dreams, goals, and putting in the work.
That’s it. Put your head down and do the work. It sounds easy enough. But if it was why are so many not doing it?
Why would people rather complain than to work hard? Because it’s easy. It’s really easy to make excuses. The effort put forth to think of them is not that difficult.
But where we are wrong is that it’s not that hard to put in the work either. Sure, the actual physicality of it may be but that really depends on what you are trying to accomplish.
And if you love it, then it doesn’t even feel like work. But the only way you can find out is if you put in the time and effort. Like right now. Figure out the steps you need to take and get started.
Stop waiting for someone to help you. Stop waiting for someone to give you the necessary tools. Go and find them. We live in an age where so much information is at our fingertips. You really have no excuses.
Absolutely none. Don’t use your lack of education as a reason for not getting started. Don’t use the excuse that you don’t have money as to why you haven’t started your business.
I know a couple people who have started from scratch on the Internet. Most through just word of mouth. It can be done. There are eleven year olds and older with national products being sold in major stores.
There are no excuses. No one is literally stopping you. Put your head down and do the work.
The world is not fair. Some people get all the breaks in life. I will never amount to anything. Why am I even here? Sound familiar? Any of it?
Each of you reading this today can identify with these sentences. At some point in your life, you will say one of them or something similar. You will feel like no matter what you say or do, you can’t get any further in life.
Ok. Well, I don’t agree with you. I know that the entire world is not fair, but mine is. My world is everything around me that I can affect. I don’t care about the chaos going on around me. You know why? Because I know my worth and you should, too.
You are worthy simply because you exist.
Yes, it’s just that simple. There is honestly no difference between you and the next person. Especially a celebrity. Well, at least, one thing: they realized their worth earlier than you. That’s it. They knew that they had someone to offer the world and they knew they could do it.
That’s what being worthy is about. Recognizing that you were born this way and that you can do and be anything you put your mind to. I know there are some skeptics out there. People who say that this is all lies and everyone is not born with the same advantages.
But I am telling you the truth. There will be tough times and obstacles. There will be times that you feel like quitting and giving up. But you can’t do that. Too many people do in life already. Be different.
Be different and believe in yourself. Be different and know you are something special created by the cosmos to be exceptional. Be different and ACTUALLY believe these words and act upon them. Don’t pay lip service to your worthiness. Use it as fuel and realize your potential is beyond imagination.
No one is better than you. No one wants it more than you. So now prove it to yourself. Prove that these words aren’t falling on death ears. It’s not going to be easy, but nothing worth having ever was.
Even if we live in the same house our successes and failures will never be the same. Be steadfast in your convictions. Remember your goals and why you are doing them.
Stop comparing yourself to others and do the damn work. Do what is necessary to create your definition of success. And by the way, success is inevitable. You just have to choose when you want to have it in your life.
When are you going to start working on your dreams?
I know you want to be the best version of you. I know you want to make life easier for you and your loved ones. You want to help those people in your community who are less fortunate. You made the necessary plans and have them tucked away for when the time is right.
And when is that? When is the time ever right for anything? The Wright Brothers didn’t wait until someone came along to perfect their plane. They devised a rudimentary machine and set about trying to get it to fly. They didn’t wait until someone showed them how to do it. They just did it. Yes, it didn’t work the first couple of times. But all it took was one time. That one time changed the entire course of history for how we all travelled around the world.
When I knew that I wanted to leave the military, I didn’t wait. I put in my retirement orders and began working on the foundation for my family’s new civilian life. And as solid as I thought my plan was it still had holes in it. But you know I still too the leap of faith.
Steve Harvey’s recent video below after a taping of Family Feud has gone viral. In it he talks about jumping (doing it now) and not waiting. Check it out.
Great, huh? See we all have a parachute (our dreams) and many of us hold onto it for years. And like he said, some people never even open theirs. In fact, many people go to their grave with them still strapped to their backs. No, I am not trying to scare you, but you have to have a sense of urgency and jump. Jump into your destiny because there is no other perfect time to do so.
N.O.W. stands for No Opportunity Wasted. We don’t have the time to sit around and let others realize your dreams and implement them. We don’t have time for others to criticize us and tell us that it will never work. Today right now at this very moment is the time. There is no better opportunity.
Les Brown, the motivation speaker talks about you laying in your death bed and the end of your life. Surround all around you are the Ghosts of Missed and Past Opportunities. They are standing above you and they are angry. Angry that you didn’t take at least one of them and go for it. They are angry at you that they now how to go to the grave with you. Missed opportunities.
Now I don’t know what it is that you want to accomplish. I don’t know your dreams. And honestly, I don’t need to. Stop whatever you are doing and start on one of your goals. No excuses. Just stop and come back to this blog if you have to. Bookmark if you want, but go and realize your dreams. Take the first step closer to your legacy. Remember, no opportunity wasted.
Live your Dreams.
What’s one goal that you would start today right now at this very moment?
What exactly in life do you think you deserve? A big house? A nice job? A beautiful spouse on your arm? What if I told you that you honestly don’t deserve any of it. Not one bit. Not if you don’t work for it.
Many of us, not all, have someone been raised with a sense of entitlement. As if because we were born, the world owes you any and everything that you want and desire. That because of the work that our parents or ancestors have done we someone is entitled to a pass over hard hips, turmoil, trials and tribulation.
I want to tell you that if you feel that way and you are reading this blog you are in the wrong place. My blog is not for you. Though I love having followers and talking with you all, I can’t deal with those who feel that particular. I don’t do entitlement.
Well, let me take that back. I don’t care for people who have a sense of entitlement and have done nothing to warrant it. I do, however, feel that we are all entitled to achieve our dreams. We are entitled to be always striving for greatness.
But do you deserve it? I say yes and can say it with conviction. I know you deserve to not struggle your whole life with money, weight, or self-esteem. I know you deserve to come out on top as much as possible.
But you and only you can get you there. Only you can get what you deserve. You can have all the right mentors, friends, coaches, etc. But if you don’t put in the work, it will never work for you.
We don’t simply deserve something because we are living and breathing on this planet earth. Every specimen on this planet has to work hard for what they deserve. Why would you be any different? Really.
Time is of the essence. We don’t have to debate what you think about the subject. Stop telling me your hustling. Stop being everywhere but on the journey to fulfilling your dreams. It’s time to do work.
Have at it.
As children, we are told that our dreams are important. Our parents tell us that if we work hard and study that they can come true. And at that age, we feel like anything is possible.
So what happened? Many will say that life happened. I understand that, but I will also say that it sounds like an excuse. See, somewhere between our youth and adulthood society told us that it wasn’t acceptable to dream anymore.
Don’t believe me? When someone is daydreaming what do people say about them? That they have their heads in the clouds right? That they can’t take anything serious and that they will never amount to anything. We both know that is not true, though.
These people didn’t succumb to society’s wishes. They knew their creative mind needed to flourish so they kept dreaming. They didn’t listen to the naysayers. They started with a dream and held onto it. They guarded the dream and nurtured it despite what anyone told them.
Sure they heard the doubters tell them to grow up and that dreaming was for children. But they didn’t listen. They slowly began to anchor their dreams to themselves. They wrapped the chain of the anchor tightly around their body and firmly pressed the anchor to their chest. Each time they heard negativity, they held onto the anchor a little tighter.
Even when they conquered one dream and moved to another, they held on to that anchor. And that’s what we all need to do. We need to think long and hard about what we really want out of life. Once you know, dream about yourself already having achieved these dreams. Capture that picture. Cement it in your mind
Attach it to your anchor and press it firmly to your chest. Wrap the chain around you and don’t let anything take it away from you. See, this is how you realize that you have grit inside of you. This is when you realize that you must grind to achieve your heart’s desires.
This is when perseverance and determination are manifested in your life and you realize that you have the power to win. You have to believe in yourself and your dreams when others don’t.
This is how you are going to get through all the tough times. Through all the days when you feel like quitting. When you are presented with a path of obstacles, you are going to hold on to that anchor and push through.
When the waters of uncertainty and despair start to creep up, use that anchor to weather the rough seas.
Anchor down, my friend.